What Should You Talk About? - Inspired Marriage

When people learn that we are a 24/7 couple and have been that way our whole marriage, we usually get the same reactions. many will say don’t y’all get tired of each other?

Then when we say we talk for hours a day, we get asked how do you talk so much without running out of things to talk about?

That’s easy, we turn everything into a conversation. For example today Sandy read a couple of paragraphs from a marriage book then told me a few things it was saying and we spent 2 hours in deep conversation about those two paragraphs.

Life is our talking points. We look at situations that people have and discuss that and that turns into heavy conversations.

We can be watching a movie or a how and if a situation happens that hits one of us in it, we pause it and talk about that. Those are some of the best talks we have when we do that.

We take everything in life and that becomes our conversation so we never run out of things to talk about because what happens today will be different tomorrow in life.

We both are passionate about life so it helps us communicate an a deeper level than just mundane talk.

Most communication books teach people how to talk on a mundane level but the problem is, if couples stay talking at that level they lose passion over time.

Talk about life, hopes, dreams, desires and everything in between. When you talk about things that really build intimacy, you don’t lose passion.

Yes I know, we have to talk about the mundane things too and I get that but you don’t have to stay at that level! Take it deeper to build true intimacy. Without going deeper, you end up in a passionless marriage and grow apart.

I think many times people date passionless people then expect them in marriage to be full of passion. We all are passionate about something, you just have to find the passion within your spouse.

This is why you need to discuss hopes, dreams and desires while dating. Find out what they have passion for because in knowing this, you will be able to tell if the two of you will click on a deeper level. You want to find this out before you marry.

If you are already married and figuring this out now because sometimes we change as we age to be more passionate and you realize they are not that passionate. Just search hard for it because once you find their passion button, now the two of you can have those deeper talks. Don’t give up!

Turn life into a conversation and you will see more intimacy build between both of you.

Living an Inspired Marriage,

Chris Benton

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Chris Benton

I am co-founder of Inspired Marriage. I went through 19 years of addictions until God healed me Dec 26th, 2007. The first 5 years of our marriage was hell because of my addictions. With Sandy's patience, I was able to allow God to work in me and we have been growing spiritually together ever since! Oct 5th, 2023 was 21 years of marriage and it's been an inspired one!