What do I want to be known for? Of course the obvious is that I lived passionately for God. That is a given but beyond that? My biggest thing beyond that I want to be known for is that I lived passionately for my marriage! That marriage has been a top priority. I don’t take this marriage thing lightly. I am serious about our marriage!
If I die before Sandy, I want her to be able to go up to the coffin knowing with all her heart that I never stepped out on her. I want her to know that I did everything I could to live a joyous and passionate marriage. I want her to know that she was always my everything once I got beyond my addictions.
When I look at our marriage, how can I step out when not only do I have such an amazing wife but also an amazing lil boy in Lil Chris. How can I ever cross that line and hurt both of them like that? How can I make her a single mom by me stepping out? That would be very selfish of me to create that environment for both of them.
I also want when people come to my funeral, even people that didn’t know me well to say, he loved his wife and family. He was all about marriage and wanted his marriage to be an example of how a marriage could actually be.
We don’t study marriage things and each other every day to just have an average marriage. We do extra so that we can have an extraordinary marriage! We don’t want an average passionless marriage, we want an extremely passionate marriage!
Outside of God, our marriage, each other come before everything else. There is no human relationship that comes before my wife and she feels the same. I can’t allow some things to come into our marriage to create weeds. Weeds does nothing but destroy the marriage because they will make you blind to something. We do our best to chop and destroy any weeds that come.
Am I saying all this comes naturally or easy for us? No way and don’t you ever think that. Don’t ever say we were or are lucky because our marriage has nothing to do with luck but everything to do what we do everyday!
Why am I saying all this? Because our passion is marriage and we want to see other marriages grow into what we have. This is why we feel the reason God is calling us to our marriage ministry. We have something to give in this area and we just want God to use us in the way he wants to because we went from hell in our marriage because of my addictions to where we are today almost 14 years of marriage now and we know every marriage can have what we have if BOTH the husband and wife are willing to do the work and yes we get it, it takes BOTH of them to work at marriage!
Living an Inspired Marriage!
Chris Benton
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