Marriage is more than just a commitment—it’s a partnership designed to reflect God’s love and purpose. I truly believe that when a couple focuses on one shared passion, their relationship can flourish in extraordinary ways. While individual passions are valuable, there’s a unique strength in merging them into a unified purpose. When two people work together with God at the center, they become an unstoppable force—not just in their marriage but also in the lives they touch.
The Beauty of Combining Passions
Every marriage has a unique blueprint, and part of that design involves discovering how to blend your individual passions into something greater. For Sandy and me, our shared passion lies in inspiring others. My passion is writing and speaking, while Sandy’s is songwriting. Both of these passions align in the art of storytelling, and they allow us to encourage others in meaningful ways.
Our ultimate vision is to build a life where we support one another’s creative pursuits—whether through music, articles, books, or speaking engagements. By doing so, we aren’t just pursuing individual dreams; we’re creating a shared mission that strengthens our marriage and fulfills the vision God has placed on our hearts.
This alignment didn’t happen by chance—it was divinely orchestrated. God brought us together, and the journey we’ve been on makes it clear that His hand is in every detail. It’s incredible to watch how our lives and passions continue to line up in ways we couldn’t have planned on our own.
The Risks of Separate Lives
Sadly, we’ve seen too many marriages crumble because couples live separate lives under the same roof. They work, they raise kids, they pay bills, but they don’t truly connect. The result? A passionless marriage where two people share a bed but little else.
This isn’t what God intended for marriage. He didn’t design us to be so consumed with making a living that we forget to truly live. Yes, work is necessary, but when it consumes all your energy and leaves no room for connection, your marriage suffers.
Think about this: If you’re giving your best energy to your job and saving your leftovers for your spouse, what message does that send? Over time, it erodes intimacy and connection, creating distance that can lead to the heartbreak of divorce.
The Power of a Shared Purpose
Contrast that with couples who thrive in their marriages. When you look closely, you’ll often find a common thread—a shared purpose. Whether it’s a ministry, a business, a creative project, or a charitable cause, they’re working together toward a goal that excites and inspires them. This shared purpose not only strengthens their bond but also gives them a sense of joy and fulfillment that radiates to others.
Imagine what could happen if you and your spouse found something you’re both passionate about. It doesn’t have to be something grand; it just has to be meaningful to you both. Whether it’s serving in your community, starting a side business, or creating something beautiful together, a shared purpose can breathe new life into your relationship.
How Shared Passion Transforms Marriage
When couples unite around a passion, it creates synergy—a sense that you’re better together than you could ever be alone. This shared purpose ignites excitement for the future, fosters deep connection, and gives you a reason to celebrate each small win along the way.
And here’s the best part: You don’t have to wait for the perfect time or opportunity to get started. Start small. Pray together. Ask God to reveal a passion you can share. Then take steps, even small ones, toward that vision. Over time, you’ll see how God uses your shared efforts to bring about something amazing.
A Challenge to Transform Your Marriage
If your marriage feels lifeless, don’t give up—pivot. Start by seeking a passion you can share as a couple. It might be something you already love individually, or it could be something entirely new. What matters is that it brings you together and allows you to experience the joy of building something with your spouse.
For those who aren’t married yet, I encourage you to look for someone whose passions align with yours. It’s a beautiful thing to walk through life with a partner who shares your dreams and encourages your growth.
Sandy and I have experienced the power of a shared passion, and it has been life-changing. In the 22 years we’ve been married, our commitment to inspiring others has brought us closer and given our marriage purpose. We pray that you, too, can discover a shared passion that will transform your relationship for the better.
Because when two people come together with a shared purpose, led by God, magic happens—and it’s the kind of magic that changes lives.
Living a God-Inspired Marriage,
Chris
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