Reckless Love in Marriage

By now you probably heard the son Reckless Love of God by Cory Asbury. Many churches are playing this because it’s such a powerful song.

And oh, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God Oh, it chases me down, fights ’til I’m found, leaves the ninety-nine And I couldn’t earn it, and I don’t deserve it, still, You give Yourself away Oh, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God, yeah

That chorus says it all. God truly has a reckless love for each of us. It’s a love that’s not defined by what we do but in who he is. It’s as authentic love as you can get. It’s Agape love in pure sense!

Think what would happen is both husbands and wives loved each other with that kind of love? We would see a transformation in marriages like never before! We would see less divorce rate. We would see less poverty. We would see less kids being used as pawns. We would see less selfishness in this world all by having husbands and wives giving each other that kind of love?

God actually commands that kind of love in marriage. Some people don’t understand why God talks about respect to the wives and love to the husbands? It is because a woman’s strength in most cases is love. She is already love. God doesn’t have to help her do that. A man’s strength is respect. It’s already inbred in his genes but love isn’t.

Ephesians 5:25-33 ²⁵Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

As you see in the song Reckless Love of God, he is also commanding husbands to have that kind of love towards their wives. If both people did that, it would be a transformational marriage!

I am not saying this is easy but done right, you could change the whole scope of your marriage no matter if you have a solid marriage or if it’s in the ditch right now. This kind of love changes marriages.

I don’t know about you but thats the kind of love I want for our marriage. It’s what we all dream of. When a husband and wife has the kind of reckless love that God has for them, their marriage will be on fire!

You won’t have to ask where the passion has gone. The passion will be alive and well! You will have to sacrifice your pride and ego for this kind of love. Pride will stop reckless love from entering into your marriage. Pride will shade over this kind of love. Pride will destroy your marriage.

I ask that both of you pray to God about helping each of you bring a reckless kind of love into the marriage. What does reckless love look like?

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not ^[a]puffed up; ⁵does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, ^[b]thinks no evil; ⁶does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; ⁷bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.⁸Love never fails.

That is a pure reckless love. If you told anyone you live that way with your spouse, they would look at you like you are crazy. they would call you crazy because they could never love in that way but I believe with God, all things are possible! It’s ONLY possible to have that kind of love through Christ because without Christ, you do the opposite but with Christ as he starts working on your heart, you start to see the tender side of you!

Our first 5 years of marriage, this was Sandy all the way,. Shes still this way but she had to be that way through my addictions. I went through 19 years of addictions until God healed me over 10 years ago (Dec 26th, 2007). She went through hell but even through it all, she never nagged me, she never put me down, she never talked down to me even though I deserved it. She always uplifted me inspite of me and inspite of the addictions. Some people say she allowed me to walk over her but that’s not true.

She allowed me to experience Christ’s love through her. That is what God wants every marriage to experience! That is true reckless love! She loved me through Christ!

Allow God to transform your life. Allow him to transform your marriage! Allow him to transform your heart because when your heart is all in, everything else will follow! God takes you at the heart level! Thats where transformation happens.

I seen a quote the other day that said “Transformation happens in the head not the heart”. I 100% disagree with this quote! In fact when God changes you, he changes you from your heart first. It’s the only way for lasting change to take place. It’s where transformation has to happen!

Living an Inspired Marriage,

Chris Benton

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Chris Benton

I am co-founder of Inspired Marriage. I went through 19 years of addictions until God healed me Dec 26th, 2007. The first 5 years of our marriage was hell because of my addictions. With Sandy's patience, I was able to allow God to work in me and we have been growing spiritually together ever since! Oct 5th, 2023 was 21 years of marriage and it's been an inspired one!