Sandy and I have the marriage we have because we don’t miss anything. We catch even the smallest things in life. Big moments are great but life and marriage are made up of many smaller moments and the more you see and feel these moments, the closer your intimacy will be.
For example, the other day we were driving and the song “Every little thing” came out about the same time we were passing a Cracker Barrel billboard that said “Enjoy every little thing”.
Sandy and i just launched at that because we catch even the smallest things like that. Everything in life is connected if you open your heart and eyes to it. If you stay fully aware of things, you see and feel things like you never have,
Too many people are going through life so fast that they never get to smell the roses. STOP sometimes and just enjoy this journey we are all on because oneday we won’t be here anymore. Life will just flash right by you.
Something else we catch everyday is so many times we say the same things together at the same time at some of the most odd times. It gets crazy sometimes. Sometimes we have caught saying things together 5-10 times or more a day. We have done this at least all year everyday but again it is because we are so in tune with each other.
Other times she is reading something on her phone and i go to show her something i am reading on my phone and it is the exact same thing!!! You just have no idea how crazy closeness can get if you just notice everything around you.
Even after 15 years of marriage, we are still like this. We feel like we are still in the honeymoon phase of marriage and plan on keeping that phase the rest of our lives because we know we can!
So many times in marriage both people start to fade from each other and when that happens, you start to miss everything. All the small stuff that you used to catch now seems so long ago. But if you want a marriage that stays passionate, that doesn’t fade, keep seeing the small things because that will keep your marriage a live.
I know you can’t see everything as we all are busy but if you start today to notice the small things that happen around your marriage, you will start to notice more. Its like the more you do, the more you do. It’s may sound crazy but it’s like a learned behavior. The more you do with that behavior, the more you will notice because of that.
Sandy and I don’t try but we still notice everything. It is because when we notice it, we speak on it towards each other. We share what we noticed and that makes our sub-conscience finds it more. Its a catch 22. The more you notice, the more you’ll notice but the opposite is also true, the less you notice, the less you will notice!
All I am saying is wake up and bring that passion back into your marriage. many times that passion will come back just by being aware of things in your marriage because awareness is everything.
Sandy and I treasure what we have and we know that every marriage can have what we have as long as God is the center of the marriage!
Living an Inspired Marriage!
Chris Benton
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